Everyone from first-timers to veteran victim service providers want to know about the reception we get when we present our work. How is it received? What do they think about the content? Does it make a difference?
Below are some of the comments, feedback and testimonials about our work fro participants to volunteers. This list will change as we receive more material.
- I had always thought anti violence movements or groups were focused on women. I also learned how to be a helpful bystander in assault situations. Overall, the presentation was interesting and eye opening.
- I love it that it’s men encouraging other men to stop violence. Men on men and men on women violence is terrible. Men have a bigger impact on other men, more than women, I think. Good male role models will really shine the light on how to handle anger appropriately.
- (The) men’s anti violence council was pretty interesting topic for me. Since I have taken this class, we have been talking about discrimination between different genders. Usually guys abuse girls in lots of places, such as the workplace. However, talking about MAC was pretty impressive to think about. It was interesting to see another man teaching other guys. An ally can solve men and women’s struggle and make better relationships between male and female.
- I learned that I am not alone. I heard something that was new for me. The presenter said that when he took undergraduate women’s studies courses, he came out of them feeling frustrated because he learned about the problems but not about solutions. That was something that really struck home for me. I feel like knowing about a problem can be really positive but I don’t think there’s enough emphasis on what can be done to help or stop the problem.
- I didn’t even know that MAC was an organization we had on campus. When they showed the statistics of people that were involved in different kinds of violence I was very surprised.
- I learned that there is a growing following of men who have focused their time and energy on preventing violent acts at the hands of fellow men.
- I found the material to be very inspiring. The emphasis on education and knowledge as the key to prevention of violence was great. The subject was accessible to everyone. One point that was made that I found interesting was that previously the discussion of violence had focused on what not to do rather than what to do. It’s true that many people feel that as long as they aren’t the ones perpetuating violence it isn’t a problem for them personally. I plan to use this point in trying to convince my husband to get a group of men together for a workshop.
- During today’s anti violence guest speaker, I realized how much of a problem it is. Although I knew that there were instances of violence, I wasn’t aware of how widespread it its. Thankfully there are organizations like MAC because I am against violence on all levels, whether it be domestic violence, criminal violence, or even war. If I am in a situation where I witness violence I will do my best to peacefully dissolve the issue rather than just stand by and allow it to continue.
- Today’s lecture about men’s violence really hit home for me. Recently I have been having a hard time because my brother was arrested for domestic abuse of his boyfriend. This hit me hard because he has never been a violent person and although he was very remorseful I didn’t know how to react because I’ve never been exposed to the male perspective on violence. This lecture helped me realize that there are people out there who care and know about this issue and perhaps this is a good opportunity for me to seek some help not only reacting and dealing with this but learning how to help my brother and prevent it from happening again.
- I was really surprised that the Men’s Anti-Violence council has so many volunteers. I just assume that men have always looked the other way when it comes to violence against women because they were ashamed or maybe didn’t care. It really impressed me that they are so passionate about this service and have so many projects involving awareness.
- The speaker really opened my eyes to the fact that women aren’t the only people being sexually assaulted. They are helping educate people on violence against both men and women. When he talked about volunteering at the women’s center it intrigued me and made me think that maybe I would like to do it and help people who have been in sexual assault or any type of violence.
Victims, Survivors and those affected by violence:
- Since I got on campus, I’ve seen posters, flyers and various literature for MAC group and have been so, so touched by it. I’m a rape/domestic violence survivor (7 years since) and seeing that such a group exists helps so much. I’ve gotten amazing support from women through the years but men I’ve known have historically not quite been sure how to respond to what are commonly considered “women’s issues,” and a Men’s Anti-Violence Council does SO much good. It’s incredibly comforting to know people of all genders are on my side. I wanted to let you know how much I really appreciate everything you’re doing. I think a lot of other people value it immensely…though we’re all a bit shy about why it’s so important, sometimes. Thank you for what you do!
- MAC is “character in action!” MAC is at work when “nobody is looking!” As a participant in MAC, I see things through a lens of character (e.g., trustworthiness, respect, responsibility, fairness, caring and citizenship). By attempting to model positive character, and trying to “do-the-right thing” the result is also the promotion of non-violence.
- MAC makes a compelling difference for each other as well as the people we encounter one at a time. Often times our work is quiet and uneventful, but we are laying a foundation of awareness, leadership and a vision for healthier relationships and a more civil world.
- “I don’t see intervening as an act of kindness. I see it as my (and any person’s) responsibility to step in and correct an injustice, or prevent an assault. When a man intervenes to say that a joke is inappropriate or that some hostile action toward a woman isn’t right, he is sending a very strong message that our community has values and ways of acting that don’t allow men to mistreat women.
- “We send a message that men care about these issues and can be helpful. I know a lot of good men who are silent by default. They’ve never been invited or challenged in ways that motivate them to be active. MAC engages men because they are members of this community and can be part of the solution. If we want our community to be safer, we need more men to step up and get involved.”
Victim Service Providers:
- MAC has been an invaluable instructor in violence and violence prevention. The volunteers at the Crisis Center need to be prepared to encounter any situation on the crisis line and MAC has prepared them well to effectively and compassionately counsel victims of violence. MAC members bring an engaging yet highly informative style to their presentations making a rather difficult and uncomfortable topic easy to learn about. I know that my volunteers are much better equipped to handle calls about domestic violence, sexual assault, stalking and violence prevention after seeing MAC’s presentation. John Shean, Crisis Intervention Program Coordinator at the Johnson County Crisis Center