“Take off your clothes or get out of my car” song (Update)

I looked all weekend for something to post on the website and nothing stood out. I scoured my Google alerts and checked out the usual news suspects and could not find a single thing that motivated me enough to write a post. So, this morning I sign into Napster and was informed that country music singer, Toby Keith, recently released a new album called Bullets in the Gun. One of my best kept secrets is that I grew up listening and loving country music. I still have a soft spot for some of the classic singers, songs and sounds from the country music I listened to during my childhood. I stopped listening to country music over a decade ago and have no idea about the current state of country music or country singers.

I never was a huge fan of Toby Keith, but I decided to take a scroll down through the songs on his current album and none of them really jumped out at me.

However, near the end of the playlist, the song Get Out of My Car caught my eye. Toby’s never been accused of having deep or insightful lyrics so my mind immediately went to the literal “put out or get out” scenario. I forced myself to listen to the song, and I can still stand by my claim that I don’t care much for Toby Keith’s music. The song was disgusting and it was exactly what I was afraid it was. The message is Take off your clothes or get out of my car. I won’t attempt to link to the song because it’s not worth listening to, but if you go to the next page you can cringe and shudder at the sleazy lyrics.

Get Out Of My Car

Girl, you drank all my beer
And the whiskey’s all gone
I’m sittin’ here
Ready to get it on

You got me thinkin’ you won’t
You got me thinkin’ you might
And it’s 3 o’clock in the mornin’
And I can’t beat around the bush all night

We’ve already kissed
(We’ve already kissed)
We’ve already danced
(We’ve already danced)

You’re wonderin’ if
You ought to put on your shoes
Or pull down your pants
(Come on, pull down your pants)

What would it hurt?
Pull off that shirt
Babe, we’ve already come this far
Get out of your clothes
Or get out of my car

Whichever you choose
I’m ready to go
I could take you to the house, baby
Or I can drive it on home

We can do it right here
Or do it somewhere else
But make up your mind
Do something quick
Or I’m gonna do it myself

We’ve already kissed
(We’ve already kissed)
And we’ve already danced
(We’ve already danced)

You’re wonderin’ if
You ought to put on your shoes
Or pull down your pants
(Come on, pull down your pants)

What would it hurt?
Take off that shirt
Babe, we’ve already come this far
Get out of your clothes
Or get out of my car

We’re gonna drive around a little while then
Let’s do it over here in the middle, babe

We’ve already kissed
(We’ve already kissed)
We’ve already danced
(We’ve already danced)

And you’re wonderin’ if
You oughta pull off my boots
Or pull down your pants
(Come on, pull down your pants)

Hey, what would it hurt?
Take off that shirt
Babe, we’ve already come this far
Get out of your clothes
Or get out of my car
(Get out of my car)

I got out of my clothes
She got out of my car

What’s up, babe?
Bye, bye, boredom

Strike 3

For all of you out there paying attention, the message of this song is put out or get out. If she says no numerous times, keep asking. Assume that consent for one act means that you are entitled to keep pressuring her for something more. If she turns you down, threaten to kick her out of your vehicle.

Update: I’ve received a couple of comments and feedback about the post (read three). Some people thought I was being too sensitive, I completely missed the point, and that I was making stuff up. Let me clarify the point of the post. The point was to think about the message of the song, not if you like Toby’s music.

  • I’m not sure how you can misinterpret the message “Get out of your clothes or get out of my car.” Just because he offered to drive her home doesn’t lessen the impact of that message. Throughout the song he provides her with the ultimatum to give him what he wants or get out. I don’t care if you see a problem with that interaction or not. I think it is an unhealthy message to send about how to negotiate consent for sex. If he was so willing to drive her home if she didn’t want to, why does he have to keep telling her to get naked and then why does he expose himself to her at the end?
  • No, I didn’t listen to the other songs on his album or any of the other songs because 1) this isn’t a music review blog and 2) I don’t care about the rest of his songs, I’m talking about this song. I don’t want you to stop listening to Toby Keith. The point is to think about what you are listening to, what message it offers, and if you agree with that message.
  • If you couldn’t figure out where I got the impression that he was trying to get her to do something she didn’t want to do, let me explain. Besides him repeated telling her to take off her clothes or get out, not asking her, I mainly got that impression from the last line of the song

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